Fan your hand onto their scalp and place your thumb beside the ear. Move it slowly up and down, letting the skin stretch as you press.

Keeping your index finger still, massage the lobe in circular motions. This can be done whilst gently pulling the lobe down. The ear should stretch out, opening up the ear canal.

As you move your hand along the edge of the ear, continue the massaging the cartilage with your thumb, making sure to get underneath the fold.

Pull the edge of the ear out- wards, starting from the where the ear connects to the scalp at the top and following it all the way down, stretching out the cartilage.

Delicately, hook your thumb into the center of the ar and press softly into the head. move your thumb in circles so the whole ear is affected.

The outcome is only part of the process, it is the journey to that point which matters the most, appreciate and experience each other in a new light

This intimacy-focused activity is carried out in three main stages, which are shown in the video below.